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It’s all progress.

In my post about finally breaking down and hiring a wedding planner, I hinted at the fact that I’ve started seeing a therapist recently. It began with me trying to get a better handle on the stress of planning the wedding but has morphed into my therapist and I wrestling with much larger alligators. We’re [...]

You can’t put a price on sanity.

Okay, brace yourselves. I’m going to say something right now, something that I think most brides feel but don’t always say, and that is that wedding planning is a bitch. There. I said it. And here’s something else: I don’t love it. I won’t say I hate it, certainly not. It definitely has its high [...]

I suppose LOVE is the greatest lesson.

Happened to catch the last few minutes of Oprah today. I’m not usually home in time to catch it but today I was. Maya Angelou was on via satellite from her apartment in New York City. I was surprised by how old she looks (she recently turned 80) but her mind is still 100% there [...]

Can we ever fully “live in the moment”?

Three years ago, as I prepared to move to London for four months to study abroad, I got a text message from my then good friend Sarah (unfortunately, we’ve all but lost touch). It said, “remember to live in the moment and grow where you’re planted.” It was great advice, though I didn’t heed it [...]

What to do about “what do you do?”?

Lately, I’ve heard a lot of chatter about whether or not you should ask someone what they “do” at social or networking events. I first had this conversation (debate?) with the very cool Mike Davis, after meeting him at an event and promptly proceeding to ask him what he does. “I hate that question,” Mike [...]

The second mouse gets the cheese

Last week I was scrubbing the bathtub, and I don’t know if it was the bleach, or my circulation being cut off at the knees, but I got to talking to myself. (Inside my head, mind you. I haven’t completely lost my marbles.) The conversation went a little like this: “Why am I scrubbing the [...]